What Emotional Intelligence and Sustainable Success Is? A friend texted me at 11 PM. She had just gotten home. Again. She said: “I don’t even know why I’m tired. Nothing bad happened.” I wrote back: “You don’t need a bad thing to happen to be exhausted.” She said: “Then why do I feel guilty for…
When I was in college, me and my friend used to walk to college together. It took fifteen minutes on the same route. One day, he was absent so I went alone. After college turned off, I was coming back with some other fellows following a different path. When I separated from them and crossed…
I was talking to a close friend once, when the conversation went a little too deep. She told me that she sees most of the talented achievers around her are somewhere broken inside. The ultimate engineers she sees, often called born to be engineers or high achievers or the ones that are called reserved, shy,…
Have you talked to people in their late 30s or 40s? I have. And there is a pattern I noticed. Some of them are doing excellent in their jobs and roles but whenever a long talk happens, they love to tell their ambitions they had when they were young or teenagers. Why could not they…
Has it ever happened to you that some random person on street says that you look amazing and you go, “Oh, no, no, thank you!”. To me, it occurred in a different way. I was a very good student. A dream student, you can say. Securing the best grades and participating in extra-curricular activities. I…
It is a very common and I would say naïve perception among many that after a traumatic experience, you are expected to go through therapy for “healing purposes“. And after that, you are to act normal and sometimes act like nothing ever happened. But nothing do a lot of people know is traumatic experiences you…
One of our family friends had a series of tragedies in his life. His brought up was done by one of his uncles because his parents had died. He was sent to a hostel in another city and was unfortunately bullied there because of his background. He was good at studies so he worked hard…
Burnout and exhaustion are not a badge of honor. If you have ever felt anxious while relaxing, undeserving of a break, or unsafe letting your guard down, you are experiencing a psychological and physiological phenomenon: The Guilt of Rest. This article is your definitive guide to understanding why rest triggers guilt, fear, and anxiety—and how…
Why Do I Feel Behind When I Am Not? When I left college in 2008 and was looking for a university to get in, someone around me told me about the online mode of education. It meant sitting at home, completing the course and then a final examination in the nearby campus. It seemed feasible…
There are moments in adult development when your external life updates before your internal identity does. The promotion happens. The move becomes permanent. The relationship ends. The new circle forms. The responsibility increases. My cousin told me this. Her sister-in-law got married when she was 27. Let’s call her Emma. Emma was the youngest child…
🏃♀️When Relationships Fade Without Betrayal, Drama or Closure There comes a point in life where identity stops being abstract and starts becoming social. It is no longer just about understanding yourself in isolation. It is about seeing who still fits once your values, boundaries, and inner direction begin to solidify. One of the most disorienting…
How Performative Stability Disconnects You from Yourself This is the third phase of the series “Naming the Unnamed”. And in this series, we explain social experiences related to social identity. This phase focuses on social identity and experiences unlike the other articles where personal identity and emotions are explained. Next comes a point in life…